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Healthy Relationships Are A Must!

The happiest relationship is not dominated by a single partner. Relationships are about sharing your life. If creating a loving and long-lasting relationship is one of your goals, you should always be honest and genuine.

The great writer Theodore Dreiser said. “I believe in the compelling power of love. I do not understand it. I believe it to be the most fragrant blossom of all this thorny existence.”

If you don’t want the “thorny existence of love,” one should always give serious thought to what they want in their relationship and to always make sure that they maintain their own self-esteem and confidence while in any relationship as well as the self-esteem and confidence of their partner.

List of things Not to Do in Your Relationships

Give or make hurtful comments

Play the assumption game

Bring up the past

Hold grudges

Snoop on their cell phone

Put other people, not in your relationship first

Giving solutions when the person is really looking for a listening ear

Being judgmental and thinking you are above others

Being defensive to criticism

Telling people what to do

Being aloof; Not being responsive

Thinking you know it all

Being a complainer or a nagger

Cheat Comparing them to others

Losing your sense of self

Taking shots at each other

These are just a few of the not to do things in any relationship. But perhaps the biggest one of them all is remembering to never play the part of being a critic.

Remember even though the critic may be right. The critic will never win. Why? Because the critic may think and believe what they are pointing out, the flaws, in their message of their victim, will find that their message cannot and will not win them any prize in love, because he or she who discerns the flaws of their partners reduces their chances of reaching the goal of being in a compatible relationship, as we journey on the road to finding happiness… etc.,…etc.,… Because the critic makes it hard to reach that point because they are always being too critical. You get the picture.

Still, was you are making your you are doing what is needed to make your relationship work, remember that No relationship can flourish on love alone.

In order for a relationship to survive and thrive, you need a partner who is willing to work at nurturing the relationship. In addition, your partner must be able to be trusted, and respected. As well as they must be attentive, kind, loyal, patience, a good communicator, have empathy, and understanding, and finally the ability to compromise.

Finally, don’t ever forget that self-love is never selfish, and perfection does not exist. We are all doing the best we can with what we know how. All our past loves lost, hurts felt, and betrayals received and or given, where learning tools to help us move forward and focus on the moment at hand.

For this life is a journey that we take one day and one step at a time, on the road to a healthy fulfilling relationship.

Change your thoughts and you can change your world!

Confidence comes from a Latin word fidere' which means "to trust." Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can depend on someone or something. Confidence is relied up on in most every situation we encounter in life. From our friendships, business ventures, love-life, to playing sports. Having confidence in yourself and others can determine the success we will have in everything we do.

People who are confident are magnets for success. Perhaps you have been around someone who had confidence in their personal worth. They had an aura around them that seemed to make good things happen for them.

The great writer Mark Twain said. “All you need in life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.”

Anyone can have this feeling of confidence. Confidence can be self-taught. Once you have acquired it, you will find it to be the most beautiful possession that you own. Sabrina Carpenter said. “Confidence is the most beautiful thing you can possess.” Take the time to cloak yourself in confidence. Did you ever year of Norman Vincent Peale? He wrote a book called, “The Power of Positive Thinking.” He had a saying “Change your thoughts and you can change your world!”

Therefore, the first step to building your confidence is to:

1. Think Positive – taking the time to think positive each day should be the first tool you put into your “self-improvement” confidence toolbox.

2. Find something that you like to do and do well and then do it over and over and over…

3. Kill negative thoughts – negative thoughts are what you have about yourself. Don’t let them take over your mind. When a negative thought appears learn to see it for what it is. Then use your self-talk to change the narrative. For example, if your negative thought tells you, you can’t do something. Tell yourself, “There is nothing you cannot do. There is nothing you cannot have. There is nothing you cannot be!”

4. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

5. Determine to learn the truth about yourself. You cannot defeat the enemy within, without knowing who he is. Get to know yourself. Start a journal about yourself.

6. Act positive.

7. Speak slowly. Persons in authority speak slowly. It might take practice but do it anyway. Did you know that Margaret Thatcher, (Once the Prime Minister of England) taught herself techniques to make herself sound more authoritative? If Margaret can do it, so can you.

8. Stand Tall – remember like Mother said, “Your posture counts. Stand straight!” Stand up and be admired. Stand tall. 9. Increase your competence.

10. Get prepared. Remember that old saying. “Proper planning prevents poor piss-arse performance.” Add being prepared to your self-confidence toolbox.

11. Be Generous – Be Kind - know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image.

12. Place fear of failure with a clear picture of yourself succeeding and happy.

13. See Your Positive Self-Image. See yourself as you want to be. Did you know that many people photoshop themselves as holding a winning check made payable by them, by the lottery? Yes, they photoshopped themselves over some else’s picture, and then placed that photo where they can see it each day.

14. Set a small goal and then achieve it.

15. Determine to live above neurotic guilt.

16. Cultivate people who help you grow.

17. Refuse to allow rejection to keep you for taking the initiative with people.

18. Dare to be a little eccentric.

To build your self-confidence be determined to break old habits, to build new positive ones; that develop make your self-confidence stronger. Self-confidence can bring you more happiness. And when you feel better about yourself you have more energy and are more motivated to achieve your goals.