Confidence comes from a Latin word fidere' which means "to trust." Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can depend on someone or something. Confidence is relied up on in most every situation we encounter in life. From our friendships, business ventures, love-life, to playing sports. Having confidence in yourself and others can determine the success we will have in everything we do.
People who are confident are magnets for success. Perhaps you have been around someone who had confidence in their personal worth. They had an aura around them that seemed to make good things happen for them.
The great writer Mark Twain said. “All you need in life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.”
Anyone can have this feeling of confidence. Confidence can be self-taught. Once you have acquired it, you will find it to be the most beautiful possession that you own. Sabrina Carpenter said. “Confidence is the most beautiful thing you can possess.”
Take the time to cloak yourself in confidence. Did you ever year of Norman Vincent Peale? He wrote a book called, “The Power of Positive Thinking.” He had a saying “Change your thoughts and you can change your world!”
Therefore, the first step to building your confidence is to:
1. Think Positive – taking the time to think positive each day should be the first tool you put into your “self-improvement” confidence toolbox.
2. Find something that you like to do and do well and then do it over and over and over…
3. Kill negative thoughts – negative thoughts are what you have about yourself. Don’t let them take over your mind. When a negative thought appears learn to see it for what it is. Then use your self-talk to change the narrative. For example, if your negative thought tells you, you can’t do something. Tell yourself, “There is nothing you cannot do. There is nothing you cannot have. There is nothing you cannot be!”
4. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.
5. Determine to learn the truth about yourself. You cannot defeat the enemy within, without knowing who he is. Get to know yourself. Start a journal about yourself.
6. Act positive.
7. Speak slowly. Persons in authority speak slowly. It might take practice but do it anyway. Did you know that Margaret Thatcher, (Once the Prime Minister of England) taught herself techniques to make herself sound more authoritative? If Margaret can do it, so can you.
8. Stand Tall – remember like Mother said, “Your posture counts. Stand straight!” Stand up and be admired. Stand tall.
9. Increase your competence.
10. Get prepared. Remember that old saying. “Proper planning prevents poor piss-arse performance.” Add being prepared to your self-confidence toolbox.
11. Be Generous – Be Kind - know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image.
12. Place fear of failure with a clear picture of yourself succeeding and happy.
13. See Your Positive Self-Image. See yourself as you want to be. Did you know that many people photoshop themselves as holding a winning check made payable by them, by the lottery? Yes, they photoshopped themselves over some else’s picture, and then placed that photo where they can see it each day.
14. Set a small goal and then achieve it.
15. Determine to live above neurotic guilt.
16. Cultivate people who help you grow.
17. Refuse to allow rejection to keep you for taking the initiative with people.
18. Dare to be a little eccentric.
To build your self-confidence be determined to break old habits, to build new positive ones; that develop make your self-confidence stronger. Self-confidence can bring you more happiness. And when you feel better about yourself you have more energy and are more motivated to achieve your goals.
