Is It Love or Infatuation

Have you met someone special? And you think the two of you have that very special chemistry where you find yourself thinking about the person all the time? Think you are in love? Do you think you know what love is? Well, think again. Like the song Tina Turner sang, “What’s Love Got to Do with It?” You might not even know what love is. Loving and being in love are two completely different things. The definition of loving is to have feeling or show love or great care. The definition of being in love is defined as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person, a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Sexual passion or desire. Now we can go deeper and define… Loving someone is about how they make you feel, being in love is about how you make them feel... Loving someone means you are only concerned with how he makes you feel loved, special, or appreciated. Being in love means you worry about how to make him feel loved as well, because that's equally as important to you. But the biggest question to ask is do you know the difference between loving someone and being in love with them? Believe it or not there is a difference here too and believe it or not it can be hard to tell the difference between loving someone and being in love with them.

Here are a few things to think about the next time you think about whether or not you are loving someone or in love with them. • Loving someone is a choice, being in love isn’t. • Loving someone means wanting them to do well, being in love means putting them first. • Loving someone is fleeting, being in love is forever. • Loving someone means needing them around, being in love means needing them to be where they are happy. • Loving someone is about ownership, being in love is a partnership. • Loving someone is an uphill battle, being in love is effortless. • When you're in love with someone, you can fall out of love with that someone. • When you love someone, you never really stop loving that someone.

Wow! So many steps, so many things to think about on the subject of is it or isn’t it love when the feeling of love should be effortless, right? But this sounds like work just trying to figure it out. So, the moral of this story is to love realistically. • When you see your certain someone, realistically as they are and they see you realistically as you are, you both are less likely to disappoint the other. Take time to really get to truly know the person who is the object of your affection, realistically and you will be on your way to conquering the uphill battle to effortless love. And always remember Infatuation happens instantly. But love is a slow process.